I'm still reeling from this weekend and the fact that I was invited to participate in a South Indian wedding,
in India. I would have been happy to attend one in the states, but this was just incredible :D
While speaking with a coworker, I mentioned the three wishes I would want granted while in India: to see the Taj Mahal, ride an elephant in Jaipur, and attend a wedding. To my surprise, she mentioned that she and her family were going to one that weekend, and would I like to come?
Well, who wouldn't?
That's how I found myself wrapped in 9 yards of light blue fabric, decked out with bangles, gold jewelry, and a bindi. We traveled to Sneha's house and, after meeting her husband, parents-in-law, 9 month old son, and 94 year old grandmother (who all attended the festivities), we tried on saris. Despite feeling a bit like a burrito wrapped in all that fabric, I was thrilled and we set off.
We arrived at the venue, and the first thing I noticed was all the colors. Now India in general is one of the most colorful places I've ever been (it's because people got sick of the bland desert after a few hundred years, according to the locals), but this was a whole new level. The second thing your senses are assaulted with is smell, and you realize all that color is from fresh flowers. I mean, thousands of flowers. Everything is decorated to the nines with beautiful bouquets, which are hung near the entrance, arranged in walkways, given as gifts to the groom, draped around the necks of important members of the wedding party (I somehow got one myself despite not even knowing the families that were getting married), and in every other part of the ceremony you can imagine.
I wish I could recount for you every detail of the rituals, but there is no way to give justice to the grin on the new couples' face as the groom ties the knot on a necklace for the bride three time and they are married, doused in rice with turmeric, flowers, and beads. It was an arranged marriage, but neither the bride nor groom seemed particularly unhappy. Maybe a bit bored at times, but they performed about 20 hours of rituals over the course of two days. I don't really blame them. Everyone else attending the marriage was equally distracted - nobody besides me was watching the ceremony with rapt attention - and they were all milling about, chatting with their sister's cousin's brother's aunt. No one even so much as blinked when the transgender cross-dresser came in and threw a nasty hissy fit over not being paid immediately (it's actually auspicious to have a man dressed in a sari bless a new couple, and they are often paid to attend the nuptials) despite being in the middle of a complicated ceremony.
I wish I could upload the pictures I took, but alas, I left the cord that connects my camera to the computer at home. So please accept these pictures as place holders, and I'll update the post in a few weeks with the correct picture.
Now checking off "attend an Indian wedding" from my bucket list :)
Day 1: Sari
Day 2: Salwar Kameez